Make a Change!
We recently sold our house and moved into an apartment. To be honest, I really love our apartment. We enjoy the simplicity of a smaller space to care for, no grass to cut, and no exterior maintenance. The apartment complex has a pool, which my daughter loves. She wants to swim almost every day. But I find myself a little resistant to go… I’m not comfortable appearing in a public setting in a bathing suit. I realize that I’m not overweight, but I do have some lumps and bumps that I prefer not to show off. I can choose to hide in shorts and a t-shirt or inside of a large cover-up (which I currently do), or I can choose to make some choices that will help me be more comfortable in a bathing suit. Making those choices requires that I transform the way I think about some things and how I go about my day.
The same is true for our finances. We may say that we want to save for retirement, that we want to get out of debt, and that we want to stick to a monthly budget. All of these are fantastic ideas. However, saying and doing are two very different things. We must actively choose to make those things happen. We must transform the way we think about our finances and how we approach them. My husband has a saying that I love. He says, “If nothing changes, then nothing changes.” If you choose to handle your finances the way you always have, then your finances will always look the way they always did. If you choose to take new steps in order to get closer to living in financial peace, then your finances will begin to take better shape and you will move closer to your financial dreams.
So, I’m going to start eating better and working out consistently in order to feel more comfortable going to the pool with my daughter. And since I am making this declaration public, I give you permission to hold me accountable! What changes are you going to make with your finances, and how will you be held accountable for them? The choice is yours.
![]()
This post was written by Alesha Graves. Contact Alesha at alesha.graves@gmail.com
4 Responses to Make a Change!
Leave a Reply Cancel reply
Pay Your Per Capita

Sigma Kappa Sorority now has the option for alumnae to pay their per capita fee through the Sigma Kappa website! Click the image above to learn about per capita and how you can contribute to our wonderful organization.
Still have questions about per capita? Click here to read our FAQs
Blog Categories
- Books & Reading (30)
- Budget & Finance (18)
- Crafts & Cooking (49)
- Decor & Home Organization (23)
- Health & Fitness (36)
- Lifestyle (37)
- Parenting & Family (40)
- Pets (10)
- Photography (9)
- Recent Graduates (16)
- Sigma Kappa News and Notes (55)
- SK in the City (2)
- Technology (11)
- Travel (33)
Tags
Alisa alumnae Ashley Ashley Nance baking books budget children chocolate Christine Christmas cookies decor dessert fall family fitness football Gifts goals Halloween holiday holidays jennifer Jessica Kate life love luck Michelle New Beginnings New Year's Penney reader's advisory reading Rebecca resolutions school sigma kappa sisterhood spring Summer T-shirts thankful TravelArchives
- May 2013 (9)
- April 2013 (19)
- March 2013 (16)
- February 2013 (15)
- January 2013 (18)
- December 2012 (16)
- November 2012 (20)
- October 2012 (20)
- September 2012 (20)
- August 2012 (20)
- July 2012 (19)
- June 2012 (20)
- May 2012 (22)
- April 2012 (19)
- March 2012 (20)
- February 2012 (18)
- January 2012 (20)
- December 2011 (18)
- November 2011 (16)
Blogroll
- A Year in the Life – Ashley Nance
- All Good Things – Malory Craft
- chrissylove – Christine Navin
- Live Inspired – Kate Fodera
- Measure of Joy – Ashley Nance
- My Baking Heart – Jessica Reddick
- No Bags to Check – Alisa Jordan
- Peace.Love.Homemade – Billie Kellar
- Puppies and Politics – Dana Reinertson
- Ready, Set, Read! – Jennifer Peterson
- Sushi on the Barbie – Janah Valenzuela
- The Librarian of Spark and Spirit – Jennifer Peterson
- The Modest Violet – Courtney Hannah
- The Sometimes Almost Fictional Life of Penney – Penney Blakely
- Unlocking Financial Freedom – Alesha Caldwell









Your recent history reminded me of my own. I moved from a rental house in the suburbs to a purchased studio condo in the city. My complex also has a pool, but I have yet to go there, since I don’t want to be seen in a bathing suit either.
Good on you for working on your self-confidence! Did you know Einstein’s definition of insanity is “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” So you’re doing exactly the right thing by making some changes. Hopefully I’ll join you soon.
I am leaving the apartment world and buying a home. I will need to make finances a priority. You have to make the right choices daily on how to spend. It can take so much energy to avoid another pair of shoes, or to pack a lunch. But that extra $50 bucks a week is worth it.
I vote for wearing shorts and t-shirt to the pool rather than spending (wasting?) time worrying about the visuals. Live life now. The opportunity might not be there tomorrow.
I live about 3 hours from the beach so we try to go several times a year, even if only for a day or two. It’s always interesting to see the wide range of self confidence on display LOL. Personally I love that 1940′s style pinup bathing suits are back in fashion – much more forgiving for women of a certain age