dovelove2As a Seattle native, things generally seem to be gray this time a year. Don’t get me wrong – I love the spring showers as much as the next Seattleite, but sometimes it seems like there is never going to be a warm, sunny day – which can definitely make life seem a little gloomy.

Whenever I feel down in the dumps, I try to remember that happy people are happy because they make themselves so. Despite a melancholy atmosphere, or whatever is keeping you down, there are a few foolproof habits that happy people use to make the best out of any situation. Here are a few tips that I try my best to stick to:

Be positive. Sounds easy, right? But the first step to happiness is to work on your positive outlook at life. Step one is to smile more, which sends a signal to your brain that you are happy, even if you aren’t feeling that way. Next, did you know that when you treat others with kindness, your brain produces serotonin, which makes you feel relaxed and happy? Consciously work on doing small kind acts and you’ll feel a world of difference. Finally, let go of grudges and other negative thoughts – they’re not doing anything but making you feel unhappy.

Get rid of problems. One piece of advice that changed my life is to never see obstacles as “problems”, but as challenges. Problems seem bleak and unchangeable whereas challenges are merely opportunities for which you have the ability to overcome. Seeing something as a challenge automatically makes you search for ways to fix a problem, rather than become overwhelmed by it.

Tell the truth. Have you ever noticed how guilty or uncomfortable you feel after a lie? Happy people don’t try to lie or make excuses about their actions. Instead, they own up to their mistakes and live in a way that there isn’t any reason to lie in the first place. The more open and honest you are, the more content you will feel.

Be healthy. Exercise and eating well are two important tenants of a happy person. To quote an often-watched movie at my sorority house, “Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don’t shoot their husbands!” Whenever I’m feeling down on myself or stressed, I make it a priority to go to the gym and sweat out some frustration. Not to mention the benefits of working out are great for boosting your self-esteem! Be careful about what you put in your body as well – junk food makes you feel slow and tired, while fresh and healthy foods make you feel… well, fresh and healthy! Remember – when it comes to your mood and health, you really are what you eat!

Even if it isn’t easy at first, you have a responsibility to yourself to try. I found that the phrase “fake it ‘til you make it” couldn’t be truer for finding happiness. Just keep trying to find your positive self until one day it comes naturally.

How do you pick yourself up when you’re feeling down? Share your own tips for finding happiness in the comments below!

2 Responses to Taking Responsibility for Your Own Happiness

  1. Anne says:

    I live in south Florida so I no longer have to deal with the gray days…but even the sun and palm trees don’t always uplift…I try to make time for me as much as possible…which can be hard when you work and you’re a mother of two busy girls…but have to remember that no ones happy if mommys not happy! Lol

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